Writing to Transplant Recipients

The Decision to Write

A Personal Choice

Choosing to write to your loved ones’ recipient is deeply personal. Many donor families find comfort in sharing about their loved ones and their lives, while others may choose to keep this connection private. There is no right or wrong decision—only what feels best for you.

Should you choose to do so, Legacy of Life Hawaii will facilitate written correspondence between your family and transplant recipients. All correspondence is completely anonymous, and identities are kept confidential.

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If You Choose to Write

You may send a greeting card or letter to share about your loved one. Here are some suggested details you might include:

• Your loved one’s first name only

• Their job or occupation

• Hobbies or interests they enjoyed

• Family details, such as children or grandchildren (without last names)

• If including religious sentiments, please consider that the recipient’s beliefs are unknown

• Do not include hospital names or any personal contact details

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Closing Your Letter

• Sign only with your first name

• Do not include your address, phone number, or email

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Writing to Multiple Recipients

Your loved one may have helped multiple transplant recipients. You can send multiple copies of your letter, or we can make photocopies and distribute them on your behalf.

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How to Send Your Letter

1. Place your letter or card in an unsealed envelope. 

2. On a separate piece of paper, include:​

   • Your full name

   • Your loved one’s full name

   • The date of donation

3. Mail everything to:

Legacy of Life Hawaii

Attn: Family Services

405 N. Kuakini Street, Suite 810, Honolulu, HI 96827

1. If you prefer to send your correspondence electronically, please click on the button below.​​

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Upon receipt of your letter, Legacy of Life Hawaii will review it to ensure confidentiality and

then will forward it to the transplant center, which will then pass it along to the recipient.

Please allow extra time for this process, as it may take several weeks for the recipient to receive your message.

Can We Meet the Recipient?

Yes, though these meetings are rare. If both the donor family and the transplant recipient express a desire to meet, Legacy of Life Hawaii can arrange a private meeting. Typically, this happens after both parties have exchanged letters and provided written consent.

Your loved one’s gift has created a lasting impact. Whether you choose to write or not, please know that your generosity is deeply valued.

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Will I Hear Back?

Transplant recipients may or may not respond. Many feel overwhelmed with emotions and struggle to find the right words to express their gratitude. Some may take months or even years before they feel ready to write. If you do not receive a response, please know that your kindness and generosity are deeply appreciated, even if unspoken.

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